I think its better to be able to enjoy the benefits of both.And to enjoy the benefits of being fully and equally engaged. But not everyone can fill all three roles, nor can everyone enjoy them equally. So you just may have to figure out what works for you and then find a partner that matches. It depends on the situation and the person you are with, try both, i personally love it when a woman climbs on top and rides me, controlling the pace, it's very sexy, but i also love being dominant and taking control! Submissive.As you let me rub my hard cock against your booty and your cheeks while I'm teasing your incredible hot body and eat your neck, your ears before I penetrating balls deep into you. I think you will find that depends on the mood you are in and how you feel, both are completely acceptable and very pleasurable! I like the push and pull and struggle for control on both sides.;) Keeps things interesting. PM and tell me your thoughts.